And yeah, the line about not needing something to survive hits hard.
Yeah, as we sit here with our loves stripped down to what we need to survive...we go shopping when we need food to survive, can only work outside if they are essential for survival...and we're missing SO MUCH.
So the line about Dixing people not needing light to survive, yeah, it hits hard.
It's interesting how quickly the show managed to go from cheesy pining fun to BUT MY FEELINGS.
Exactly that.
I think pining *is* safe in a way, in that while a relationship isn't yet happening you don't have to think about all the ways that it is hard. And then it is, and you do.
I think part of Shen Wei's brand of pining is choosing to give in, which would be fun to watch if I didn't care about him so much.
Speaking NOT AT ALL from personal experience, one way that a relationship with a power imbalance can get you in trouble is that if you are the person with more power, and are a generally ethical person, you can try to give in a lot to try to equalize things. And it's hard to do that while also protecting yourself and advocating for your own needs. Not sure if something like that is happening here.
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Date: 2020-04-29 07:38 pm (UTC)Yeah, as we sit here with our loves stripped down to what we need to survive...we go shopping when we need food to survive, can only work outside if they are essential for survival...and we're missing SO MUCH.
So the line about Dixing people not needing light to survive, yeah, it hits hard.
It's interesting how quickly the show managed to go from cheesy pining fun to BUT MY FEELINGS.
Exactly that.
I think pining *is* safe in a way, in that while a relationship isn't yet happening you don't have to think about all the ways that it is hard. And then it is, and you do.
I think part of Shen Wei's brand of pining is choosing to give in, which would be fun to watch if I didn't care about him so much.
Speaking NOT AT ALL from personal experience, one way that a relationship with a power imbalance can get you in trouble is that if you are the person with more power, and are a generally ethical person, you can try to give in a lot to try to equalize things. And it's hard to do that while also protecting yourself and advocating for your own needs. Not sure if something like that is happening here.